IL TESTO COMPLETO THE LETTER THAT I WROTE
THE DIOCESAN COUNCIL OF CATHOLIC ACTION At the end of my tenure as diocesan secretary. THE PUBLIC HERE. WHY PART OF ME.
Dear friends old and new advisers,
after the exchange of mail in November I said that I thought nel cuore le vostre parole. Però non sempre è facile aprire il cuore. Oggi decido di farlo con voi perché siamo insieme chiamati a prendere decisioni importanti che determineranno il prossimo triennio.
Il consiglio è stato rinnovato. Ci sono oggi 8 nuove persone: renza orsola sisina emanuela marilena lia carmelina veronica., delle quali tre con esperienze in precedenti consigli (renza, carmelina, sisina). Dei vecchi siamo rimasti in 11: io daniela angelo rino federico valentino marino ennio raffaele teresa joy.
In the last three years has been done by us all work nice and hard, trying to hold together the association at the diocesan level to prevent sticking and Ammuina those that the bishop many times has urged us to avoid. All this without neglecting the need for the association to be incorporated more fully into the fabric of the Church.
It 's a job that has borne fruit because, beyond the inevitable friction due to incompatibilities and personal traits that are perhaps unavoidable, all directors have a sincere heart the fate of the association, providing the best of their forces.
Nevertheless, today in a council partly renovated, we are called together in an effort more: to make this formal unity becomes substantial. Do not drive straight from the report friendship and the spirit of sympathy / antipathy, but a unity strengthened on many other foundations, faith in the Lord that brings us together and the good of the association where we are called to play at this time our service in the Church.
personally in these three years past I have had the burden and honor of playing the role of secretary of 'Association, a post he led me to evaluate and deal with the president and assistant unit many situations, recommendations and preparing agendas and organizing, in first person with the children of the Secretariat, many initiatives unit.
This role has brought me, as was natural, praise and criticism due to my strengths and limitations personal well-known.
It is not for me to judge the My work in combination. Sometimes my attitude but I can judge myself. Maybe sometimes I felt, I mean in a spiritual sense, too "crucial" situations, and an excess of my "zeal association" has led some to consolidate already formed opinions about me. Maybe I'm too easily surrendered before the rejection of true relationships that seemed to catch in some (.... And maybe it was not so!) And inability to "logistics" to cultivate, since in those three years my life has was "upset" (for good of course) by two precious gifts, Joseph and Martha. However, as she repeats with Don Gregorio Franco of Nyssa, "is the work that shows that the quality of those who carry it."
not get me wrong. I say this because today, at the end of my term in presidential council, I feel a moral duty to highlight some of the knotty problems of life advice that I hope the next president will accept with due care and attention ... just to build the substantial unity I mentioned earlier. Please gloss over some course of expression that may apparirvi ultimativa: sono espressioni proprie del mio stile a cui non mi va di rinunciare ma vi assicuro che non presumono, nelle intenzioni, di essere assolutamente valide per tutti e vengono offerte come semplice aiuto e punto di vista.
Un primo nodo problematico è LA NECESSITA ’ DI UN PATTO EDUCATIVO in associazione. Ciò significa che tra i settori e le articolazioni dell’associazione deve esserci fiducia e stima reciproca full, without failure of any kind. For this reason I talk about educational agreement, because that must be a covenant (the terms are ending without formality ... just with a handshake!) In order to carry out the educational service (formativo!) that the Church entrusts to us . Especially, in this sense, is the delicate relationship between the unit level (unit president and assistant) and sectors. The decisions of the Presidency and the assistant unit are very important areas. Determine both the climate in the council. No one should feel under attack in combination for the work done. Everyone should feel free to express assessments and advice, with open minds. The pact that I propose is this: to base our relations on the board an unconditional trust and respect the result of charity, overcoming the natural antipathy / sympathy that we all carry with us. How many are true for us the exhortations of St. Paul to the Romans: "Let love be genuine ... outdo each other!
The second problem is the appropriate node AWARENESS OF THE ROLE OF DIOCESAN LEVEL . Often we are not aware enough of the conditions and consequences of role before it the diocesan level tracking of parishes. This guidance assumes that you do not agree with cutting through assessments on parish associations or their general, there are parishes and parishes not virtuous virtuous, there are no existing or non-existent workers. There are only parish associations that need to be accompanied by: small or large. The role of the Diocesan Council, especially members of the Bureau, requires a real suspension of disbelief (epochè!) respectful of the work more or less obvious that, among other difficulties, the current 23 parishes of the association bring forward. This stay of proceedings may be the right assumption "spiritual" to the accompaniment of the seriously parishes, especially new ones (Airola, Airola, Luzzi and Moiano in formation) and in the years past six years have supported the vitality, even numbers, Association of our Diocesan against a very strong and substantial decline of associations and members. Here, to avoid the normal outlets for those seeking to engage with phrases like:
- "in this parish is not Catholic Action" (... and all to wonder: how do you do in your own? )
-“i responsabili sono solo sulla carta” (e tutti a pensare: dove? in quale associazione?),
-“ci sono parrocchie dove si lavora ed altre dove non si lavora” (…e tutti li a pensare: quali sono?!),
-“noi facciamo di tutto ma non ci rispondono e non vengono” (….e tutti a chiedersi: chi è che non risponde?),
-“il tale assistente non fa niente” (beh…. qui nessuno si chiede niente perché non abbiamo pudore ed esplicitiamo facilmente our criticism of the assistant on duty), etc. ...;
here, I said, avoid all this (the-back phrases and thoughts) would help all diocesan advisers to be aware of their role and avoid making sfogatoio the diocesan council of frustrated parishioners and holders of the verb associations (pardon the expression a bit 'stronger and probably last! Please do not try identifications in this or that person because he is a subject that affects everyone, not least the worst thing for me is the back-thoughts!)
Finally, the third node the problem is Inclusivity ' as a way of organizing efforts. In these three years I had a wonderful experience with the children of the secretariat: Valentino (responsible AVE) Rino (responsible WEB MEMBERSHIP) Lorenzo (Deputy Secretary to do everything) and our director Federico. Indeed I take this opportunity to thank the secretary's job done and for the friendship mostratami several times. Without them, many initiatives were completed with a lot more difficult. I seriously regret Massimo Calvano who left office after one year because he felt, to mio parere e ai ragazzi l’ho fatto presente a suo tempo, escluso da tutti noi (io federico vale lorenzo rino). Certamente questi giovani della segreteria non sono i miei amici delle uscite, né tanto meno ho potuto giocare con loro le tante “serate lupus” (gioco “tribale” che ad oggi ancora non ho capito e che mi piacerebbe fare! Questa è una precisa richiesta di invito ;-)). Tuttavia vi dico che, per la mia piccola esperienza, con loro ho cercato di essere “inclusivo”. Vuol dire che ho sempre cercato di non escluderli dalle cose e dalle iniziative per il solo fatto che non mi fossero all’inizio simpatici al 100%, che all’inizio non mi fidassi of them 100%. Being inclusive means to organize this, to credit, to trust in spite of the limits that you are clear. Do not give confidence to those around you to say more often than not preclude a possibility of real and significant report. This I tried to do with them, in part, I had to revise my opinions and I was also in part returned. I have learned a lesson: to live the liability associated with such monarchs of the results, managers charged with a weight at times unbearable, it helps us to be inclusive in the sense that I made. Sometimes it is necessary to risk a little and be more inclusive because what matters is not the perfect result but goodness work that determines it. Maybe we will not have all the accolades you expected, maybe the large patches. ... But we did and lived associatively commitments.
I come finally to an issue that concerns me deal with the new president of the diocesan council about the future . So to take a chance on a sensitive issue. Are perhaps the least appropriate person to deal with it. But even here I feel a strong moral obligation to speak from the heart in his hand. I want to be with you true friend and traveling companion: I would venture into this land to me "undermined".
Unfortunately, about the sensitive issue of Bureau diocese, I have found in recent months, a de facto situation involving well over my person and my intentions of many of the former council.
Although not nominated for anything, just wanting to play all the way with seriously the mandate entrusted to the secretary, my person is been involved in the dispute over the presidency. On the other hand it was natural to think that I was a "papabile" is the only survivor of the last triad, are now the ex-secretary. In addition to many, even in a parish, it seems natural that the future president who is more determined and interpreted the line diocesan associations. A choice of continuity would have said! If we were fine with Nisia, it seems natural to choose Diego.
But it is not: I was not asked for any availability for the presidency, or I think I'm ambitious to the point of self-promotion. On the other hand, a associazione democratica e viva come la nostra su questo punto è sovrana.
Ed è giusto che sia così! Queste cose vanno chieste nei tempi opportuni e comunque dalle persone preposte ( l’assistente unitario e il presidente uscente nella fase pre-assembleare, il nuovo consiglio diocesano nella sua interezza che vota la terna dopo l’assemblea ). Poi il vescovo liberamente decide.
Dopo tre anni spesi per la nostra associazione, I do not deserve all the reviews that some (pochi!), but is motivated by a sincere search for the right person to lead our association, have given me, perhaps motivated by antipathy incorruptible. Such judgments are not justified even in my many limitations and a character that at times may seem rough.
You see, dear friends and fellow travelers of the board, personally I think I have the limitation of not being able to immediately and instantly accept different points of view from my staff that I shall be put forward. I have to work a lot about myself in order to avoid this error. In the discussions, especially when sudden rise or momenti di stanchezza, questo errore mi porta a volte ad apparire poco flessibile ed a mostrare, preso dai miei “giusti” (?) ragionamenti, tratti a volte antipatizzanti. Ben conscio di ciò cerco sempre di tornare sulle questioni per cambiare punto di vista e, se necessario, chiedere anche scusa. Tuttavia questo mio limite in contesti ampi come il livello diocesano può portare alcuni di coloro con cui non ho una particolare consuetudine di relazioni amicali, a consolidare giudizi già formati. Ma chi non ha di questi limiti? Chi nel nostro consiglio non gode di antipatie e simpatie?
Vi assicuro che personalmente insieme al presidente ho ispirato e salvaguardato tante delle mediazioni (a volte al ribasso, devo ammetterlo!) che in questo triennio hanno tenuto unita l’associazione, evitando insieme a voi quegli appiccichi e ammuine tanto deplorati dal vescovo. Non sono uno che crea divisioni da contrapporre a chi invece non ne creerebbe! Godo di grande stima personale da parte del vescovo e dell’assistente unitario (posso tranquillizzarvi su punto)! Anzi ho sempre cercato in tutta sincerità di evitare le divisioni e le liti, assicurando l’adeguata preparazione dei consigli, coinvolgendo tutti nelle iniziative, cercando di non rispondere di fronte ad attacchi che a volte ingiustificabilmente trascendevano sul piano personale ecc … In un consiglio rinnovato solo in part (I do not want the new 8), even the next presidency will be that!
why I am also convinced that this situation does not deserve my prayerful silence, but a few words clear and authentic.
I wonder: E 'RIGHT TO CONTINUE ON THIS ROAD!?
No, not right! For this reason in the next three years outdo each other and love among us has not fiction! We overcome the sterile and useless personal dislikes! Gli inutili pregiudizi! Le nostre finte certezze! Mettiamoci in discussione insieme! Cerchiamo di essere l’uno per l’altro segno di contraddizione per svelare in tutta franchezza i pensieri dei nostri cuori. Forse scopriremo che certe distanze che oggi paiono tanto siderali da non permetterci relazioni autentiche, in realtà sono piccole piccole e superabili con un semplice passo. Il prossimo presidente ha bisogno del nostro aiuto, soprattutto di questo aiuto spirituale.
Gareggiamo nella stima vicendevole, amiamoci senza finzioni!!!!
Vi confesso che per me grande è stata la tentazione di lasciare, reputando molto grave l’offesa subita come laico impegnato, professionista e padre di due figli. Ma poi mi sono detto che sono appunto “conseguenze in-intenzionali di azioni umane intenzionali” (il filosofo mi sembra che sia Popper.): a volte ci troviamo coinvolti in situazioni più grandi di noi aldilà delle intenzioni di ciascuno.
Finally prevailed desire to follow my inclination to fight and to have a peaceful heart and prove to me that words have been wasted for free. This open letter is also the fruit and the time of this internal struggle has not ended yet.
why I felt the need to share these reflections with you, daring to hope to be heard without misunderstanding, in view of our first board where I'll be happy to deal with you the adventure of the next three years! See you soon.
Airola December 30, 2010
(anniversary of my marriage) Diego
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